The Soft Life
I don’t need another reminder about how strong I am — I’m aware.
I don’t need another “I don’t know how you got through that.”
Me either.
And I definitely don’t need another “insert Black woman trope here.” We’ve heard them all, and personally, I’m over it.
Last time I checked, we are all human, who all feel deeply. Yet somehow Black women are rarely given the same grace to fully express all of who we are in the way non-Black women often can.
I’m at a point in my life where I know I’m a hard worker. I know what I’m capable of. I know I can do hard things.
I also know I’ve been expected to play small, accept the bare minimum, and avoid shaking the table. But that is no longer something I’m willing to subscribe to.
I feel a shift taking place in my heart and in my body, and it’s time to step into what has been suppressed for far too long — softness.
Since the beginning of the year, I’ve been deeply committed to stepping into courage, and I kid you not, the moment I declared this life presented me with constant situations that required me to embody it.
You know the phrase, “Do it even if your voice shakes”? That has been me.
And honestly, I loved embracing it no matter how hard. But as time moves forward and life shifts seasons, I now feel called to a existence of softness.
This energy is asking me to relax my defenses, loosen my grip on survival mode, and ease up on the rigidity. These ways of being were never meant to be permanent fixtures in my life. So now, I must do the necessary living ( notice I didn’t say work) to bring a softer way of being into my life.
For me, my soft life looks like romanticizing what’s right in front of me, and I’m fully here for it.
In April, I declared that I would speak nothing but positivity over my life, regardless of how things looked and/or felt. By the end of the month, I felt an upward shift in my energy. I saw manifestations of things I’ve wanted come to life, I received clarity around situations that were causing confusion and alignment in areas that were fractured. Setting the tone for month by upping my game on shifting my words was a vivid reminder that the power of my words are everything.
So for May, I’m following a similar blueprint - one that declares, I am soft, I am surrounded in softness, and a soft life deserves me. I am meant for so much more and that awareness in and of it itself is so inspiring to me.
2026 is showing no signs of slowing down and now more than ever I want all the goodness that life is so as I enter Q2 the soft life is leading the agenda I can’t wait to share with you what it brings to me.
Ways to create more softness in your life:
Take care of your heart and mental health-One thing I’ve learned is that if your heart is broken about anything or you don’t see yourself as worthy of love and softness you will self-sabatoge unknowingly or knowlingly.
Love yourself- Like really learn to love and accept all that you are. Look at yourself in the mirror and really see how beautifully made you are. You are not a mistake, everything concerning you is worthy.
Take care of your body temple-Eat good, adorn yourself, move your body, say good things about yourself (and others). Your body is a living breathing organism it can hear and feel everything it deserves your best.
Begin to surround yourself with beauty. Last year I painted and added new decor to my apartment. I wanted to do this for years and never did because I wanted to move someone place nicer. Ever since I did these upgrades to my space I I have loved being in my home, it beautiful and feels so good.
Do what interest you, what are you interested in that lights you up , that you are passionate about. Allow yourself to dive into that with excitement that drives you to do more. I love art, I go to shows and create my own pieces. It’s something I haven’t done in a long time but as I embrace my soft life I’ll be tapping back into it.
These are just a few things you can do to start but you get the picture and if you can only do one thing on this list let it be #1- Your mental and emotional health are EVERYTHING, without that being taken care of none of the other things matter.
It’s a new season and it’s time for us all to live lives that are full and encompassing of all that we are.
Black Women deserve The Soft Life
Live Lite,
Safia